fix(lock): harden transient quorum and diagnostics (#4268)

* fix(lock): retry transient remote quorum gaps

* perf(storage): reduce deadlock detector blocking

* fix(storage): satisfy deadlock detector clippy

rustfs/Cargo.toml

@@ -165,6 +165,7 @@ md5.workspace = true
 mime_guess = { workspace = true }
 percent-encoding = { workspace = true }
 pin-project-lite.workspace = true
+parking_lot = { workspace = true }
 rust-embed = { workspace = true, features = ["interpolate-folder-path"] }
 s3s.workspace = true
 shadow-rs = { workspace = true, features = ["build", "metadata"] }